The ‘Good Enough’ Mom

Although we aspire to be, none of us is a perfect mother. Moms try their best to care and provide for their children and raise them in the best possible way are doing a superb job! Their methods of upbringing may or may not be as efficient but if they are trying to improve and be a better parent, they are already being a ‘good enough mom.’

Having children in the family brings life to the household. Fun and games, picnics, laughter and all the good stuff but it doesn’t end there. Raising children has its own ups and downs but by staying strong and getting through difficult times together, actually leads to stronger bonds between parents and children. Your kids may dislike your rules or might even be nasty with you but don’t lose heart and give up – you are doing a fine job! “Thanks Mom, for my right upbringing!” or “Mumma, thanks for being strict with me!” are words that you will not hear now but will once your kids are young adults, there will be multiple times when such words will delight you. So, keep up the good work!

When we try disciplining kids, they usually give us a hard time. Most of us get tired and give up but those who are persistent, make sure their children obey the rules. We must also realize that change takes time since it is a process and not an action, during which we need to be ready to let them bear the consequences of their inappropriate behavior and wait until they are ready for change.

As we discipline our children, we must make it a point to recognize the slightest of improvement. As mothers, we may be coaxing our kids every single day to do a particular task and one fine day they might do it on their own! Don’t let this improvement go unnoticed, complimenting them or recognizing their efforts encourages them and at the same time reassures you that your disciplinary measures are correct.

Just as compliments are necessary, reprimanding them for inappropriate behavior is a must. Letting kids get away with wrongdoings shall motivate them to make inappropriate choices in future as well. Apart from being disciplined they should also be explained the reasons as to why their deed was bad or harmful and its repercussions.

We moms are certainly doing a good job yet with a little support, we might get even better. Being a part of a ‘Mommies group’ helps us with solutions to many issues, such as, finding the right coach or tutor, homework related ideas and nutritious recipes that kids love. You may take help from the school counselor, advice from a trusted friend or read about parenting. Perspective of a supportive person should always be welcomed as they notice things about your children that you fail to see, good as well as bad. Make a note of their observations and work on them. The same supporter shall soon be happily complimenting your efforts and your child’s progress!

The ‘Perfect Parent’ concept is imaginary but aiming to be a better mother is a reality. A continuous effort is what brings in bigger and better rewards. Some days your efforts will be highly efficient while at other times you may have to keep trying but do not lose heart, persistence pays!