Being Childless

“Now you are married, when are you giving us the good news?”


“Your cousin got married after you and she has 2 children now, what are you waiting for?”


“You must have a child now; we grandparents want a toy to play with”


“Who will take care of you in your old age? Have a child soon…”


Have you heard any of these or any variation of these? Most importantly, have you said any of these to your friends, sisters, cousins, acquaintances… anyone? Please be kind and humane and refrain from making these kinds of statements, because it may be possible that the person you are saying this to may not be able to conceive due to a number of reasons, even though they are trying.

September 11th to 17th is being observed as the World Childless Week. It is important that we know why!!! World Childless Week is the brain child of an English childless lady Stephanie Phillips to highlight the experience of women and men who are childless and not by choice. It is an attempt to remove the taboo attached to infertility and make more people aware about the issue. World Childless Week Program has a different theme for each day of the week.

As per a recent research, the infertility rate of both men and women are on a steady rise over the last few years. Yes, incredulous as it may sound, even in India, the infertility rate has been on an upward streak.

Common reasons for infertility

  • Poor egg health
  • Problems with the endocrine glands
  • Poor nutrition
  • Stress
  • Xenohormones
  • Lifestyle Choices
  • Low Body Weight
  • Obesity
  • Long-term use of birth control pills
  • Genetic predisposition


Research also indicates that those who suffer infertility issues feel ashamed and guilty. This results in low self-confidence, mental health problems and may end up creating a chaos in relationships and other elements of their lives.

There are plenty treatments available in the market for infertility, sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t. And sometimes the realisation that you may never have a child can be painful to acknowledge and move on.

Whether a couple is choosing to remain childless or are forced to be so because of medical reasons, we have no right to hurt them or make them feel miserable and inadequate because they are incapable of becoming parents.



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